Grieving is Difficult

Grief is not linear.  It doesn’t follow a sequence that leads to a final resolution.  Grief is chaotic.  It does not follow a timetable.  Grief bursts will occur for the rest of our lives. As the mourner, we alone can choose what to hold onto and what to let go of.

The greatest healer of grief is validation, not time, and all grief needs to be heard.

When someone we love dies, our own life feels like it has been shattered and transformed into an unrecognized version of the person we once were.   We find ourselves in Liminal Space, standing at the edge of a life we once knew, gazing fearfully into a future that is uncertain. The matters of life and death become more about what we do not understand and less about what we can personally control.

As a companion, I hold sacred space with the bereaved, allowing their story to unfold in a caring, loving, non-judgmental environment. Being present with a person’s pain does not involve taking it away, helping them get over it or treating it as an illness. Instead, in my practice, I provide a place of refuge for the mourner to explore their emotions that may include pain, fear, despair, anger, grief, guilt, shame or immense sadness. This journey of the soul leads towards continued remembrance of the relationship and, in the process, the discovery of the heart’s resiliency and light.

It takes great courage to grieve, yet all grief needs to be heard. When we confront our grief, to ourselves and to others, our hearts begin to open and the healing light begins to shine from within.